My Guard Ears are on duty 24/7 they are telling me. Nobody's gonna mess with their master! Jeez, I am well-protected and didn't even know it! I see now that this set up will definitely make two-way communicating difficult with someone who is interested in my welfare or our welfare as a couple. No wonder our conversations don't work.
Let's see what I just learned through writing this post. I talk and you listen. You talk and I don't listen. Something is wrong. Since knowledge is the first step to change, may I benefit from my own advice. I wonder if retraining Guard Ears is as time-consuming and difficult as retraining dogs...
Well, I am sick of fighting with me and everybody else! I still feel fight in me, but I would prefer to use that energy to LISTEN. I think that would serve me better. "Guard Ears, Go get in your bed. Stay."
Let's see if that works.